Change Your Life with One Small Word

CHANGEKimberly wants to finally get healthy, but doing so feels out of reach. Jason wants to start living his dream, yet he feels trapped at work. Jenna? She simply wants to enjoy life, but her situation feels like a hopeless prison.

Day in and day out, do you find yourself in a similar struggle—dreaming of more, but stuck in the rut? Do your hopes to break out, step up, and start living your dream seem to get crushed daily by the demands and routines of your reality?

If you want to change your life—go after a dream, start a business, get healthy, enjoy your day-to-day—you’re not alone. Many people desire change, but just because we want change doesn’t mean that we will change.

Last night in our small group study, we discussed what motivates people to make changes in their life. According to Steve Corbett and Brian Finkert, there are three triggers for change—things that have the potential to move people from merely wanting change to making change. They are:

  • A recent crisis
  • When the burden of the status quo becomes overwhelming
  • The introduction of a new way of doing or seeing things that could improve life

The authors go on to propose that many people, although they need a change, are not ready for change. This is because they either don’t think there’s a problem or just refuse to see their own responsibly in the process. Basically, they think about their situation and say,

So what?!”

However, that isn’t you. You hung with me this long because you see your need for change. But, if we want to pursue change then we first need to evaluate the triggers above that help us do just that. Honestly, I don’t want or need to wait around for a crisis or for things to become so overwhelming that if I don’t change I’ll die (physically, spiritually, emotionally). That only leaves one trigger: discover a new way of doing or seeing things that can improve my life.

Now that is something I can control.

That is something I can manage.

That is something I can do.

I may not have someone to go with me to the gym, teach me a new skill, or partner in business, but what I can do is learn, read, study, ask questions, and begin taking new steps towards a new way of living. I can stop saying, “So what?!” and start exploring “So what if…?”

By simply adding that one small word “if” to the end of my “so what” I give myself the potential to change my life—even more so if followed by a specific action towards a dream or goal.

So what if . . . I buy a book on how to start a business or a non-profit?
So what if . . . I plan ahead for five healthy meals a week?
So what if . . . I begin to set aside 10% of my income for savings?
So what if . . . I sign up for that foreign language class?
So what if . . . I commit to writing once a week?
So what if . . . I set aside one night a week for date night with my spouse?
So what if . . . I get up 15 minutes earlier and start my day with a devotional?

If gives you and me the power to discover a new way of doing or seeing things. If represents forward thinking and starts the ball rolling in right direction. If represents imagination and allows our creativity to work towards positive change.

So… if you want to change, but are having a hard time doing so, maybe it’s time to add that simply two letter word to your situation and explore what it may look like to start taking steps towards your dream. Trust me, living the dream is always better than dreaming the dream.

So . . . what if?

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Enough faith?

throwAt age 17, I had been given the opportunity to give a message to a tribe of people up in the mountains of Oaxaca, Mexico. I had my message all prepared when not more than 5 minutes before I was to speak, God nudged me to preach the Gospel from Mark 16. I did just that and by God’s grace, over 90% of the small rural church responded for salvation.

As the service was coming to close, I proclaimed that God not only saves but is also a healer.  I opened the front for anyone who needed a miracle. Numerous people came forward, but a short elderly woman stands out clearly in my mind.  Slowly she nudged her way through the crowd up to the interpreters. She spoke softly to them and they turned to me with anticipation in their eyes, “She is deaf in one ear and would like you to pray for God to restore her hearing.”

I believed God could do it, but in the moment I was overwhelmed but my own inadequacies. I turned around and faced the back wall for a moment. “God, I am not sure I have enough faith for this, but I trust you.”  Tears began to stream down my face as I turned back and faced the woman. Laying my hands on her ear, I began to simply pray for God to heal her.

When I finished, one of the interpreters began to whisper in this woman’s deaf ear. A smile stretched across her wrinkled cheeks as she began to jump up and down with utter enthusiasm shouting something in in her native language.

“She can hear!!! She can hear!!!”  

I crumpled to the floor in awe of a merciful and tremendous God who loves all His children, even those lost in the mountains of southern Mexico.

Since that day, I have prayed for healing of others on numerous occasions. Some have been. Others not. But I’ve realized my job is just to act in faith (pray) and leave the results to God.  I don’t have to question the why or how.  Faithfulness is just being willing to step out and trusting God with the results based on His character.  

You see, “enough faith” is acting in a way that displays trust in something we believe to be true. It has nothing really to do with results. Matter of fact, it is quite the opposite. It is action when we aren’t sure of the outcome, but trust that God does.  It’s knowing God in the moment and understanding his will.  Faith is something we believe enough to move us to action.

That is enough for me.  The rest is up to God.

Deathbed Regrets: Part 3/5

#3 “I wish I had eaten healthier more often, but passed on fewer desserts.”

Less than 5 minutes ago, I popped a hot, fresh chocolate chip cookie just out of the oven in my mouth and savored it beyond measure. MMMMMMMMMMM! Anyway, this regret has much more to do with eating healthy, but enjoying the simple pleasures of live.

Most of my late teen years and even into my twenties consisted of many fast food moments. The thought of fast food today makes me sick and I shutter at the thought of what that did to my body. In the past year, I’ve only eaten fast food about 2 or 3 times so props to the wife that feeds me good! 🙂 We made a huge lifestyle change that helped make this happen – we moved. Moving allowed us to reformat our schedule and we were so fed up with food on the go that it was months before we ended up getting out to a local restaurant to experience the scene. Simple lifestyle often = healthier lifestyle.

Moving onto dessert: a simple indulgence with a chocolate bar, cake or chocolate chip cookie can be a wonderful reward for eating healthier. Going overboard is never a good thing, but nothing beats a good dessert! My favorite being chocolate mousse… which I remember requesting at almost every birthday growing up (thanks mom)! When it comes to dessert, get the finer quality ingredients. Often they are much healthier for you and taste better. Simple ingredients often = guilt free enjoyment.

Eat healthily to live a long life, but remember to enjoy it the years you earn!

Deathbed Regrets: Part 2/5

#4 “I wish I had taken better care of myself.”

This is one regret I have actually quoted.

Recently I had a bout of sciatica. Wasn’t real fun. Intense pain can really make one want to take better care of their physical well being. When it came to physical fitness I always considered myself an active person. I grew up playing soccer, skateboarding, and generally maintained an athletic lifestyle. Strangely, those memories stuck with me even after I stopped actually being active. A few non-athletic jobs later and I threw my back out and limped around for two weeks like an old man.

Yes… at 32, I’ve already uttered this deathbed regret a few times. But thanks to a bit-o-pain, I find myself wanting to improve my well-being dramatically. If I start today, chances are good I’ll drop this regret and enjoy walking with a strut in my step instead of a limp.